Today at work my manager and I were discussing the issue of older men being into younger women. It was a brief but interesting discussion. I mean we all get the 50 year old man going after the 22 year old girl (can we say eeewww), not really get but it's what we expect. That particular scenario is purely ego driven lol...it's the mind set of "Yeaaahhh...I can STILL get any girl I want" ppssh no you can't(not unless you got money and she's a gold digger). But the question of our discussion is why men our age (roughly mid 20's to early 30's) go for the fresh out of high school not even old enough to buy alcohol GIRL?!?!?! I understand that traditionally men tend to pursue women that are younger than them, I just didn't think it would be that young. Idk...I guess it's just been on my mind lately b/c it seems I have been seeing it everywhere. Now this isn't a case of the pot and the kettle people. I have dated younger men and it's never really worked out. I found them immature and not very grounded, and being mature and together are qualities I'm looking for in a potential boyfriend. I'm not saying I want to get married and have kids b/c I really don't I just want someone on my level. I don't think that is too much to ask. This brings me another point/question. Is the reason why men date younger women b/c mentally that at 29 years old they are only on the 18 year old level? If that's the case then that's just sad. Not to say that an age gap is bad but if it exceeds 9 years, you have to start to wonder you know. I always thought that around 28ish, men start to grow up a bit, start knowing what they want out of life, you know settle down a bit...it seems somewhat counterproductive if they try to do that with a girl that wants to party 24/7. And what does that mean for girls like me and my friends, who happen to be single and in our mid 20's? Does that mean we should try to look for men in their late 30's to early 40's b/c they will be on the same level as us?? I'm sorry but I have to draw the line somewhere and dating someone old enough to be my parent is just flat out creepy. Where is the happy medium? My cousin was lucky enough to find a guy that is quite literally the exception to every rule (lucky bitch lol jk I love her soo much)...it's so funny b/c when we talk about her future hubby (yes they are getting married...like I said lucky bitch haha) we always joke around by saying that when they made her man they broke the mold. I'm actually starting to think those fuckers really did break the goddamn mold!! Seriously, if all of the mid 20's to early 30's guys are dating the 20 year olds, then what are the mid twenty something women supposed to do?!! Be single for the rest of our lives?!?! Where as I may be perfectly content with that particular thought b/c it has been sooo long since I have even been on fucking date, other women in my position may not feel the same. Just think about it. These guys that go for the younger women are infatuated with them b/c they are young and exciting and vibrant and spontaneous and it's appealing for them and they want to be a part of the "magic" but eventually the magic fades and they get stuck with these girls for more than likely the rest of their lives for whatever reason. What these idiot men fail to consider that like them we all get older and the "magic" will eventually fade and then what will they do? Call me cynical, call me a bitch, call me what you will but I speak the truth and if you don't agree well you can tell me why you disagree or kiss my butt..whichever you want
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Older Men and Younger Women
Today at work my manager and I were discussing the issue of older men being into younger women. It was a brief but interesting discussion. I mean we all get the 50 year old man going after the 22 year old girl (can we say eeewww), not really get but it's what we expect. That particular scenario is purely ego driven lol...it's the mind set of "Yeaaahhh...I can STILL get any girl I want" ppssh no you can't(not unless you got money and she's a gold digger). But the question of our discussion is why men our age (roughly mid 20's to early 30's) go for the fresh out of high school not even old enough to buy alcohol GIRL?!?!?! I understand that traditionally men tend to pursue women that are younger than them, I just didn't think it would be that young. Idk...I guess it's just been on my mind lately b/c it seems I have been seeing it everywhere. Now this isn't a case of the pot and the kettle people. I have dated younger men and it's never really worked out. I found them immature and not very grounded, and being mature and together are qualities I'm looking for in a potential boyfriend. I'm not saying I want to get married and have kids b/c I really don't I just want someone on my level. I don't think that is too much to ask. This brings me another point/question. Is the reason why men date younger women b/c mentally that at 29 years old they are only on the 18 year old level? If that's the case then that's just sad. Not to say that an age gap is bad but if it exceeds 9 years, you have to start to wonder you know. I always thought that around 28ish, men start to grow up a bit, start knowing what they want out of life, you know settle down a bit...it seems somewhat counterproductive if they try to do that with a girl that wants to party 24/7. And what does that mean for girls like me and my friends, who happen to be single and in our mid 20's? Does that mean we should try to look for men in their late 30's to early 40's b/c they will be on the same level as us?? I'm sorry but I have to draw the line somewhere and dating someone old enough to be my parent is just flat out creepy. Where is the happy medium? My cousin was lucky enough to find a guy that is quite literally the exception to every rule (lucky bitch lol jk I love her soo much)...it's so funny b/c when we talk about her future hubby (yes they are getting married...like I said lucky bitch haha) we always joke around by saying that when they made her man they broke the mold. I'm actually starting to think those fuckers really did break the goddamn mold!! Seriously, if all of the mid 20's to early 30's guys are dating the 20 year olds, then what are the mid twenty something women supposed to do?!! Be single for the rest of our lives?!?! Where as I may be perfectly content with that particular thought b/c it has been sooo long since I have even been on fucking date, other women in my position may not feel the same. Just think about it. These guys that go for the younger women are infatuated with them b/c they are young and exciting and vibrant and spontaneous and it's appealing for them and they want to be a part of the "magic" but eventually the magic fades and they get stuck with these girls for more than likely the rest of their lives for whatever reason. What these idiot men fail to consider that like them we all get older and the "magic" will eventually fade and then what will they do? Call me cynical, call me a bitch, call me what you will but I speak the truth and if you don't agree well you can tell me why you disagree or kiss my butt..whichever you want
Friday, January 7, 2011
The Dreaded Text Message
Recently I had an epiphany. I finally understand why guys don't respond to the closed ended text messages girls send them after, let's say a date (which is usually mediocre) or after just a casual hang out. I understand now because it has now happened to me with an ex of mine. I mean really, if I haven't responded to the 17 variations of "Hey" "Hey how ru?" or "How ya been?"or and this one is my fav "Hey I'm bored" I'm not going to respond ever. I finally understand the mind set of guys when it comes to this, the reason they don't respond is because the care/like you enough to fix your boredom or engage in pointless, pithy chitchat. You know I get it, I try not to do that to the guys I'm into. It's not exactly a pain in the ass, it's just bothersome enough for you to be annoyed when you get that dreaded text message. You get it and all you can do is roll your eyes and think to yourself "Really?!!?!" It's effin annoying and part of you wants to just text back "Stop texting me" or some variation of that but who really wants to be the Rejecter. Nobdody does just b/c you know what it's like to be the Rejectee. But just sometimes it's better to send that dreaded text back b/c if the other person knows how you feel, then it provides closure and they can move one, then the annoying texts will be nothing but a faint memory. Ahhhh.....
But here is another scenario for ya b/c we have all been there just like my previous example. For instance, you happen to update your status b/c something exciting is happening to you or you said something that merits just a simple "Good luck on blah blah blah" and I text you or you just get a text that says just that, don't be an assdouche and ignore it. That's just flat out rude. They aren't asking for your fucking hand in marriage, they aren't asking for anything, so stop being full of yourself just send a fucking thank you and be fucking done with it. Geez. You aren't giving these people false hope or sending the wrong signal if you respond. Sometimes you just gotta take things at face value and when someone says "Good luck on blah blah blah" that's all it means. That's it.
But here is another scenario for ya b/c we have all been there just like my previous example. For instance, you happen to update your status b/c something exciting is happening to you or you said something that merits just a simple "Good luck on blah blah blah" and I text you or you just get a text that says just that, don't be an assdouche and ignore it. That's just flat out rude. They aren't asking for your fucking hand in marriage, they aren't asking for anything, so stop being full of yourself just send a fucking thank you and be fucking done with it. Geez. You aren't giving these people false hope or sending the wrong signal if you respond. Sometimes you just gotta take things at face value and when someone says "Good luck on blah blah blah" that's all it means. That's it.
Guy Friends vs. "Girl" Friends
I'm sorry but I think a guy who has more "girl" friends than guy friends should not be trusted....and the same goes for girls (but the opposite...obviously) I mean there are exceptions to every rule...reference "I Love You Man"....but in general it's not normal. Not to say guys shouldn't be friends with girls(if possible), in fact one of my best friends is a guy. But he has an equal balance of "girl" friends and guy friends. When I see that happening I think to myself, why would you want that many friends that are girls? Are you keeping as like...idk..a backup plan? Are you trying to get into their pants one at a time? Maybe not even one at a time lol...jk...maybe...idk I guess that all depends. Anywho, it's like do you really care about the 27 girls you talk to on an individual level? Do you REALLY listen to them when they open up to you? I think it's really funny how these guys play "I'm a really sensitive person" card and sadly enough there are girls out there that fall for it. I mean really, and it's the exact same thing for girls out there that say they "just get along better with guys"...can I say bullshit? Why yes I think I just did. Again, there are exceptions to every rule, but guys can you honestly tell me you would trust a girl...let me rephrase...a girl you may be interested in (for whatever reason) who had 0-1 "girl" friend? *crickets chirping* Yeah I didn't think so. Same question for the ladies...how would you feel about your guy talking to more girls than guys? Trying to be diplomatic, you'll probably say that you don't have a problem with it...but I want you to go deep with this question....in your gut wouldn't you find that situation odd and slightly disturbing? I know I do...I've witnessed it on a couple of occasions. *Sigh* Well that's off my chest lol...now to go run errands!! Til next time :)
I remember...
I totally took this from my friend Chip's FB page(even though we aren't talking right now, idk why) but I wanted to put it here b/c it really does mean something to our generation. These are all the things I wish for:
WISH WE COULD GO BACK TO THE DAYS ON THE SCHOOL YARD,WHERE SHOWING LOYALTY WAS DRINKING OFF THE SAME CUP AND PINKY SWEARING."I CROSS MY HEART,HOPE TO DIE,STICK A NEEDLE IN MY EYE"WHEN "THREE-WAY" WAS OUR FACEBOOK,PITCH UP TACKLE MADE US TOUGHER.SIDEWALK IS OUT OF BOUNDS.TEXT MESSAGING WAS ON PAPER,CIRCLE YES OR NO,AND ...HAVING A STARTER JACKET OR J'S WAS ALL THE STATUS YOU NEEDED.WHEN ALL WE HAD WAS US
Back to the days when Nothing Even Matters...when the hardest decision you had to make was what color crayon to use or what to eat at snack time...when race was about running barefoot down the street cause we all believed we were fastest with no shoes on...when the only thing we knew about sex was male and female...and we believed broken hearts could be pieced back together...and the only problems we had with colors was tryin to figure out how to stay within the lines
BACK WHEN WE WROTE LETTERS STARTING WITH TO: FROM: SONG: DATE: WHAT IM DOING: TIME: REASON:..AND STARTING IT BY SAYING.."HOW ARE YOU?"LOL...GIVING THAT "SPECIAL ONE" THE VALENTINE CARD WITH THE HEART CANDY ATTACHED WHILE THE REST OF THE CLA...SS GOT THE BIG BOX OF 32, WITH THE POWER RANGERS ON IT.... WHERE IF YOU EVER GOT LOST, ALL YOU HAD TO DO WAS STAND STILL AND WAIT, AND SOMEONE WOULD ALWAYS FIND YOU, CUZ SOMEONE WOULD ALWAYS MISS YOU..BACK WHEN OUR JEWELRY WAS MADE OF MACARONI, AND THE HAND TURKEY WAS THE CENTERPIECE ON EVEYONES REFRIDGERATOR. WHEN I LOVE YOU MEANT MORE OF HOW YOU FELT INSIDE THEN WHAT WAS OFFERED ON THE SURFACE, AND IT WAS OK TO CRY SOMETIMES
When the little boys played basketball with their tongue out their mouth cause it made them jump high like Jordan... When an IM was a shout-out made on Q93 at 9 o'clock
When all the money u needed was 27 cent for a bag of chips..when saying I'm sorry could erase any arguement and heal any friendship..when saying "we go together" ment u were in a "relationship"..when cell phones where pagers and best friends had sleep overs..when u snuck behind the building to kiss your boyfriEnd after school..when u hollered no bust up before u open your snack and everybody wanted the butt of the pickle***
WISH WE COULD GO BACK TO THE DAYS ON THE SCHOOL YARD,WHERE SHOWING LOYALTY WAS DRINKING OFF THE SAME CUP AND PINKY SWEARING."I CROSS MY HEART,HOPE TO DIE,STICK A NEEDLE IN MY EYE"WHEN "THREE-WAY" WAS OUR FACEBOOK,PITCH UP TACKLE MADE US TOUGHER.SIDEWALK IS OUT OF BOUNDS.TEXT MESSAGING WAS ON PAPER,CIRCLE YES OR NO,AND ...HAVING A STARTER JACKET OR J'S WAS ALL THE STATUS YOU NEEDED.WHEN ALL WE HAD WAS US
Back to the days when Nothing Even Matters...when the hardest decision you had to make was what color crayon to use or what to eat at snack time...when race was about running barefoot down the street cause we all believed we were fastest with no shoes on...when the only thing we knew about sex was male and female...and we believed broken hearts could be pieced back together...and the only problems we had with colors was tryin to figure out how to stay within the lines
BACK WHEN WE WROTE LETTERS STARTING WITH TO: FROM: SONG: DATE: WHAT IM DOING: TIME: REASON:..AND STARTING IT BY SAYING.."HOW ARE YOU?"LOL...GIVING THAT "SPECIAL ONE" THE VALENTINE CARD WITH THE HEART CANDY ATTACHED WHILE THE REST OF THE CLA...SS GOT THE BIG BOX OF 32, WITH THE POWER RANGERS ON IT.... WHERE IF YOU EVER GOT LOST, ALL YOU HAD TO DO WAS STAND STILL AND WAIT, AND SOMEONE WOULD ALWAYS FIND YOU, CUZ SOMEONE WOULD ALWAYS MISS YOU..BACK WHEN OUR JEWELRY WAS MADE OF MACARONI, AND THE HAND TURKEY WAS THE CENTERPIECE ON EVEYONES REFRIDGERATOR. WHEN I LOVE YOU MEANT MORE OF HOW YOU FELT INSIDE THEN WHAT WAS OFFERED ON THE SURFACE, AND IT WAS OK TO CRY SOMETIMES
When the little boys played basketball with their tongue out their mouth cause it made them jump high like Jordan... When an IM was a shout-out made on Q93 at 9 o'clock
When all the money u needed was 27 cent for a bag of chips..when saying I'm sorry could erase any arguement and heal any friendship..when saying "we go together" ment u were in a "relationship"..when cell phones where pagers and best friends had sleep overs..when u snuck behind the building to kiss your boyfriEnd after school..when u hollered no bust up before u open your snack and everybody wanted the butt of the pickle***
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